New Years Resolutions
- A promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year.
Everyone dreads the question, “What is your New Years Resolution?” Usually it revolves around a habit you no longer want to associate yourself with, such as, quit smoking and drinking, or discontinuing unhealthy eating and losing weight.
Instead of disassociating ourselves with common resolutions, or in addition to, we should focus more on which areas of our lives we can outwardly improve upon. You get back what you hand out. The reward is much richer when you reap what you sow.
Word of the Year
Take some time to reflect upon the past year. What kind of struggles did you experience? How did you deal with them? Are you happy with the way you handled things? If the answer is no, then maybe that is something you could work on for next time, so the outcome will be different.
Begin a journal and write three to five words you want to focus on in the year ahead. Describe why you need improvement in these specific areas and what you can be doing to make positive changes. Journal at least once a month about how you are applying these words in your life. Be honest with yourself. Be real. Be raw. Be unfiltered.
Here are a range of words you might already be considering:
After you journal about your word(s) try implementing it through different ways of expression. Research books on your theme or keep track of different quotes each week. You can even make a vision board, which I’ll be blogging about later this month.
My words for 2018:
Finance – Plain and simple, my spending has been out of control the past year. I’m steadfastly putting a stop to it.
Solution: Keeping a log of my spending habits will help me keep this under much more realistic control. Also, keeping credit card charges to under $50 per month.
Gratitude – I need to learn to appreciate the things I have, rather than always wanting what I don’t have. There will always be someone less fortunate than myself. I often forget there are others praying for things I take for granted.
Solution: I will start writing in my journal what I’m thankful for each day and use thank you’s where applicable, especially when my husband goes out of his way to do something nice for me.
Structure – I’ve been forgetful many times the past year, probably due to the overwhelming amount of things I have to remember to do. Mostly medical related, but when you pile medical necessities and emotional well being on top of the normal duties of every day living it becomes too much to deal with.
Solution: Instead of typing everything into my smartphone calendar, which I still can’t seem to remember, but maybe because I don’t even look, I’ve decided to start this year with a planner notebook. Having a physical means of planning sitting on my desk seems much more appropriate for my needs, and I can be creative with it! Stickers and stamps for the win. Tune into my next blog, all about having fun with planners. If you want to get a head start check out the planner I’m using from Faithbox.
Commitment – I’m determined to stay focused on my marriage.
Solution: I will try my best to be a better wife than I was yesterday. I want to be the wife my husband deserves. I will strive to put his needs above my own, which we all know is not an easy thing to do. I will work towards acting mature with a positive attitude and learn how to be more independent. Sometimes I have to remember what brought us together to begin with, because when you find the one, you never give up.
Perspective – My final word is the biggest one. Attitude is everything. I’ve always said this, however, maybe I should listen to myself. It was eye opening when my husband recently revealed to me how bad my attitude has been. Of course I was upset at first, but I’m really glad he mentioned it, otherwise I would have continued this unacceptable behavior. I’m honestly not sure what happened, or exactly when. I tend to let my emotions bottle up each time I’m put into situations that are too stressful for me to handle. Once the bottle is full it pops open, and an outpouring of attitude spills out everywhere. Low self-esteem is mixed in there somewhere. I can’t hide behind a wall forever. As the great James Barrie once said in Finding Neverland, “They can see it you know, you can’t go on just pretending”
Solution: I need to stop trying to be someone I’m not and be who God made me to be. I will stop comparing myself to others and remember everyone is in a different season of life. I’m praying this year, for the courage to do what I love, without worrying about perfection, and what others think of me. Life isn’t as hard as I suspect it is.
My ultimate goal this year is to grow in faith, closer to the Lord, studying the word intently, and being powerful in prayer.
Stick with one word if its too overwhelming for you to choose more. What is your word of the year?